This exercise just ocurred to me while I was having trouble in getting some sleep few days ago,ever tried getting in touch with everyone on your contact list? I mean scroll down alphabetically and text or call so and so just to say hi till you get to the letter Z?your answer is as good as mine bro(sis).Its possible but quite ludricous!
Approximately 20 years ago,I thought my friends in primary school will always be with me till the end of time,that we would always share our goodies doing break,always laugh at the same jokes and never have to go to worry about adult stuff.Dammit janet,I was so wrong.I knew there was something fishy about the whole thing but I was too young and naive to put a finger on it.It was just too good to be true. By the time I was in primary 5,I had new friends,a new crush(ok,maybe 1,2 and a third..lol) and was ready to face a whole new world.
By the time I got to secondary school,I realised it was a whole new ball game.different rules,same game though but thats a topic for another day.The thing was,and it just didnt occur to me like that lightbulb towering over a generic cartoon drawing,is there a such thing as a limit to the volume of friends you should have in a life time? its kind of funny because I meet new people everyday I sometimes find it hard to keep up.Now,I tend to classify people into three groups.Family-they will always be there wether you like it or not,Friends-people not related to you but who you like to socialise with,sympathiser,helper and thats about the size of it and lastly People-you may refer them to as acquintances etc,you meet once in a while or have a short stint of "psuedo" friendship or caramadiere with.
Ok should I start?I will go with a bar chart type grouping to make it easier to get my drift.Besides those I listed before,there exist another group of circles within inner circles.Am I making any sense at all?ok check this classification,take for instant when I was undergoing my NYSC(National Youth Corp Service) in far away kano(ok,just a lil' upnorth),I formed a circle of friends with a set of UNILAG graduates that flew on the same plane with me(group 1),as we settled into our respective rooms,I immediately formed another tight set comprising of some of the aforementioned 'Lag graduates and some new boys(we actually dominated that room for the rest of the 3 weeks we spent on camp) and according to camp rules we were once again segregated into divisions(a'la military style) and once again formed a new clique.This is a contuinuum that doesnt end(I think it shouldn't anyway unless you are dead)
Now you see where am heading,now that I have gotten that out of the way.check this scenario,I got a call from a friend of mine only after I text him saying "you have gone A.W.O.l on your buddy,thats not the way man!",we spoke,all gravy then he related another incident where he was accused by another mutual friend of ours for not keeping in touch,his defense was it was a 2-way thing,the "mutual friend" could have picked up the phone and dialled instead of laying the blame on one side.
The truth is,I wish I could keep in touch with everyone but its not so possible,even I would be surprised if some pal of mine keeps calling me back to back everyday(helloo!!...now I know how you girls must feel...ring,ring...that bugaboo again,doesnt he get the message..I mean E.T got it and went home,duh!!).The truth is we got issues with school,work,relationship,family and for some it's mental .I gotta admit,I dont expect to find my name on your top call list(the possibility is there but am keeping an opened mind),I dont expect you to think of me all day(for the ladies).From my perspective,I think calling someone out of the blue is the best thing you could do...as long as you dont b*tch about the other not calling you!!!.sometimes,peeps call sjut to apologize for not buzzing sooner and I feel like,that talk is just out of courtesy. My thoughts,I have learnt not to whine anymore.
I know some reading this would be like who is this self righteous person!! look am not trying to vindicate or justify anything,I myself is guilty on all accounts but that's life and we all have to deal with it in our own unique way.Like I said before on the scrolling contact list thingy,I actually sometimes do that....well just to see the names of people on my phone man..never have the time(to get to the letter Z) or enough credit(am not a miser o,am just prudent) to call everyone but I would surely not forget each and everyone last one of them.
So once in a while scroll down,look up and smile to your self...oh sugar,wonder what this dude's doing now?.. just a little thought goes a long way.
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